We live our lives doing what works with little thought of the long term consequences. There is a price to pay for that. We just think we can keep deferring payment. We can fool ourselves and others for a time, but an accounting will take place. It is so easy , in some ways to live for now. Society tries to convince that you can have it all.
Change is needed , but so scary. And it does not immediately fix the years of wantonness. Choosing the new and right path, like deciding to grow your hair long, results in some awkward, ugly moments.