We all have faults – it is not the lack of faults that raises our self-esteem. Some of the most arrogant and self-assured people are mindless of their faults.
Seeing ourselves as we are supposed to be will help us proceed in maturity.( Defining maturity in mental , cognitive and experience terms- not just making it to a ripe old age.)
There are rich, successful, prominent people who are not mature.
Positive experiences (as in whoo whoo that was fun and everyone loves me) are not the way to true self-esteem. We all enjoy love and affirmation and unconditional acceptance. But those alone are not esteem builders. So many want only the positive and have no idea how to deal with the negative. The negative sends them in a tail spin and they become angry, pouting self-absorbed individuals. (They may have been that way to begin with, the positive experiences just kept them in check.)
Balance is not a fifty-fifty deal either. Some of the most inspiring individuals have had an unbalanced menu but thrive in spite of the seemingly unpositive backing.
<!– –>Anne Morrow Lindbergh:
I do not believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness and the willingness to remain vulnerable.
Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved.