“Acting as an authority does not, in fact, make you a bully.”
“When this kind of behavior becomes not normal,” says Hullett, “is when the goal is the actual experience of dominance.” Translation: when using power to get coffee, the coffee is the goal. Asking for coffee just to make a colleague feel small and unimportant, on the other hand, is another thing entirely.
I think there is a line that is easily crossed. Wanting something so bad that someone gets in the way and they do indeed become the target.